Bludgeon Defeat With Courage


I’m sure many of us have those memories of times when we were bullied by one person or another.  Most people remember being bullied while young students in school and most times the bullying was coming from another student.

There are times when the bullying has come from a trusted teacher, which was the case for me.

I was a teenager attending the eleventh grade in my local high-school where each week we would have a Health class.

One day during our Health class the teacher announced that she was going to choose certain students to give an impromptu talk in front of the class.

Now, I was, and forever had been very uncomfortable standing in front of the class, let alone speaking while standing in front of the class.  I believe the teacher noticed this trait in me and this is the reason that she chose me to be her first speaker!

All of a sudden I heard my name called!!  I rose from my seat and made my way to the front of the class!

The teacher then asked me to speak to the class about a subject that now I have forgotten.

I stammered and struggled, trying to speak with a shaky voice when all of a sudden the teacher stopped me.

She then turned to the other students and asked them to tell her ‘what traits I had demonstrated’ while attempting to speak!

You see, she was conducting an experiment to teach the class ‘what a nervous and frightened person portrayed’!

I was, to say the least, very embarrassed and humiliated in front of my class.  I’m sure several other students felt my pain and humiliation.

I have never forgotten this episode which occurred in my younger years and I cannot forgive this teacher for what she did.

I am sure she did not think it through that she was being a bully, that she might as well have bludgeoned me with a stick in front of my peers.

I left school following that incident but returned later in life to gain my diploma and to go on to college.  Courage did conquer the fear eventually.

To anyone reading this, please don’t let anyone saddle you with fear.  Some will do it without meaning to and then there are some who do want to instill fear and defeat in you.   You cannot lose heart!  Please don’t let the bully win!

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No Argument Only Thanksgiving


thanksgiving_melody-beattie-authorThis Monday, October 17th is our Canadian Thanksgiving and there will be no argument in my mind that I have so much to be grateful for.

I can think of seven reasons immediately and they are; Sydney, Collin, Grace, Lauren, Whitney, Charlie and Eddy, my seven Grandchildren.  Each and every one of them is a sparkle in Grandma’s eye.

I don’t like arguments, in fact I hate confrontations and avoid them at all costs.  If someone was to hurt one of my children or my grandchildren now that might change but so far it hasn’t.

The cupboard has food inside, there are clothes in my closet and shoes on my feet.  My health is good and I know many good friends who care;  life is as good as it can be!

I want to wish all my fellow Canadians a very Happy Thanksgiving!


Recharging Grandma


It’s been a long week recovering from a 3 1/2 week-long holiday.  What?  Recovering from a holiday?  That sounds ridiculous doesn’t it?  Well, not really!

I’ve heard so many people talk about coming home from their vacations and feeling the need to have some time off to recover but I never thought I’d fall into that category.  Well, here I am!

It’s been too many days spent watching CNN and hearing about Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton!

Yesterday I had my batteries recharged when I travelled to babysit my 5-year-old Granddaughter, Grace.  As you could guess, Grace has boundless energy as she stood gazing at her tired Grandma, saying, “aren’t you going to play with me?”!  To which I answered, “why of course I’ll play with you!  What will we play?”.


“Grandma you have to come and sit on the floor”, was the answer to my silly question!

Oh, it was a challenge, but I made it to the floor!  Now what?  She giggled and scurried around as Grandma pretended to be a barking puppy, while holding a small plastic figure of a little black dog between my fingers.  Just this small gesture pleased my precious sweet Granddaughter and she laughed and laughed.

The time spent that Friday afternoon did in fact recharge this Grandma.  I have realized how important it is to keep this old battery recharged; to not become lonely, discouraged or so bored with life that I give up and just sit, sit, sit!  I was falling into that pattern so easily as we seniors tend to do.


As the day turned out, we had such a wonderful time.  Grace was so happy to have her Grandma all to herself for the day and I loved sharing those moments with her.

Sometimes it takes a little child to teach us about life and what we are missing!

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The Journey To Admiring Self


“All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.”
― Asa Don Brown


To admire oneself seems to be the most difficult task  of the human race!

I don’t believe I am alone in saying that when I was a child I was criticised often by my well-meaning and loving father.  He was very strict and wanted so much for his daughters and son to grow up to be decent, intelligent, responsible adults.  I, too, wanted the same for my children and tried very hard to instill these virtues in them.

How do we teach our children to admire themselves?  It is such an important virtue that the child should be taught and one that I feel we fail to give to them.  We want our child to be self-confident, but not rude or insensitive to others.


Here are some tips that I have read and would like to share;

  • For Babies – give lots of cuddles and smiles when baby cries.
  • For Toddlers – let your child know that you see him or her as clever, special and valued.
  • For Preschoolers – A balanced feedback is important, for example; ‘Alex is a faster runner than you, but you’re better at catching a ball’!  This lets the child feel pride in him or herself.
  • For Primary School age – give extra love and cuddles at the end of the school day.  Show interest in their day spent at school; ask them what they did at school that day.  Teach your child about ‘fair play’.  Praise your child for what he or she is good at and let them know that you are proud of them for trying things that are very difficult.

It is definitely a ‘journey’ and we’ve all been there, I am sure!

Today we have the Internet which will surely influence our young children as they grow into adults.  Parents and loved ones have to work a little harder today to achieve a good outcome when raising our children, but it can be done!  Please also remember that children learn so much about self-esteem and self admiration from watching their parents.

It begins here, in childhood!  If we can only try our best to encourage self-esteem in these children the rewards will be so wonderful!

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Summers On The Farm

Farmland Sunset

Oh summer, sweet summer, I am happy you are finally here.  I intend to enjoy you to the fullest.

The summer flowers will be finally planted, chairs and table will be waiting out on the patio for my morning, noon and evening relaxation as I gratefully sit and enjoy reading the book that never could be finished with the hustle and bustle of life on the farm.

Many of my younger years were spent on the farm where the chores of farm life were priority.  There was no summer holiday at that time.  Rushing here, rushing there, dust and more dust in the face from the fields and gravelled roads.


Farming is a wonderful life and I wouldn’t want to trade those days for anything.  The work was hard but the life was as sweet and as pure as the first rose of summer.  The sunsets were magnificent and the summer moon was majestic in the early evenings.

I miss the days when I would walk down the road with my dog, Lady; not a car in sight, and only the sound of the red winged blackbird chirping and taking flight as I walked past his hiding spot in the tree.

The warm summer mornings were the best time to get out to the soybean field where we would each have a hoe in hand and walk through the long rows looking for weeds.  The  morning dew was still on the leaves of the bean plants and brush against our pant legs but since it was usually so hot this moisture felt pretty good!

64ba041428c426c27353aa33e0c33c67The pickup truck was always dusty but looked so good when your legs became tired from walking up and down those rows.  Most summer days were very humid but if we were lucky there could be a good breeze.  Even though a broad rimmed hat was worn we came home with sun scorched faces along with sunburned arms and legs.

Today that soybean field is replaced by a nice quiet patio.  I enjoy relaxing in my chair shaded by the umbrella with my book and glass of lemonade very close by.

As I lay my head back and watch the clouds drift slowly by in the sky, I think about all those hot busy mornings and afternoons walking back and forth through those rows of soybeans. There was no need to join a gym or worry about getting enough exercise as we would walk several miles in the hot afternoon.

I no longer have to prepare that big meal for the farm hands who would come in ready for nourishment and a hot apple pie baked in the oven that morning.

Oh those summer days on the farm were difficult and so tiring at the time but you just go and do it.  At the time it was our lifestyle and not a burden.  There was no worry about falling asleep at night after such a long hard day of work.

If I had it to do all over again I would!  It is not always an easy way of life but it is a good one!

How grateful I am to have had the experience and now to appreciate my retirement.  After all the hard work I do appreciate being able to enjoy my summer in the shade.

I do salute all those hard working farmers who are continuing to face the hot sun every morning but at the same time I know they love it just as I did.

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