I Too Disobeyed My Parents


“Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. ” by Dr. David M. Burns


Being a parent is one of the most challenging jobs on this earth.  We are given these beautiful, loving little babies to nurture, to teach, to love and to protect with all that we have within us.

Most times I found that my teaching came from within me; from things I had learned from my parents and they from their parents.  Did I do a good job?  I believe I did and of course with help from their father.

Many times they would disobey as I too disobeyed my parents.  We are human; they are human, and this is what most humans do because we have our own minds.  We each have thoughts, whether the thoughts are right or wrong, we have them and most times we act on them.  We wouldn’t, to be honest, want it any other way for our children.  We want them to learn to make decisions.

Looking back and remembering the arguments with my children as they were growing, the arguments over trivial things, was it worth it?  It may not have been, but I have to believe it helped in their development.  I have to believe it cultivated them to be where they are today; respectful, kind adults who I am proud to say are my kids!!


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Bludgeon Defeat With Courage


I’m sure many of us have those memories of times when we were bullied by one person or another.  Most people remember being bullied while young students in school and most times the bullying was coming from another student.

There are times when the bullying has come from a trusted teacher, which was the case for me.

I was a teenager attending the eleventh grade in my local high-school where each week we would have a Health class.

One day during our Health class the teacher announced that she was going to choose certain students to give an impromptu talk in front of the class.

Now, I was, and forever had been very uncomfortable standing in front of the class, let alone speaking while standing in front of the class.  I believe the teacher noticed this trait in me and this is the reason that she chose me to be her first speaker!

All of a sudden I heard my name called!!  I rose from my seat and made my way to the front of the class!

The teacher then asked me to speak to the class about a subject that now I have forgotten.

I stammered and struggled, trying to speak with a shaky voice when all of a sudden the teacher stopped me.

She then turned to the other students and asked them to tell her ‘what traits I had demonstrated’ while attempting to speak!

You see, she was conducting an experiment to teach the class ‘what a nervous and frightened person portrayed’!

I was, to say the least, very embarrassed and humiliated in front of my class.  I’m sure several other students felt my pain and humiliation.

I have never forgotten this episode which occurred in my younger years and I cannot forgive this teacher for what she did.

I am sure she did not think it through that she was being a bully, that she might as well have bludgeoned me with a stick in front of my peers.

I left school following that incident but returned later in life to gain my diploma and to go on to college.  Courage did conquer the fear eventually.

To anyone reading this, please don’t let anyone saddle you with fear.  Some will do it without meaning to and then there are some who do want to instill fear and defeat in you.   You cannot lose heart!  Please don’t let the bully win!




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No Argument Only Thanksgiving


thanksgiving_melody-beattie-authorThis Monday, October 17th is our Canadian Thanksgiving and there will be no argument in my mind that I have so much to be grateful for.

I can think of seven reasons immediately and they are; Sydney, Collin, Grace, Lauren, Whitney, Charlie and Eddy, my seven Grandchildren.  Each and every one of them is a sparkle in Grandma’s eye.

I don’t like arguments, in fact I hate confrontations and avoid them at all costs.  If someone was to hurt one of my children or my grandchildren now that might change but so far it hasn’t.

The cupboard has food inside, there are clothes in my closet and shoes on my feet.  My health is good and I know many good friends who care;  life is as good as it can be!

I want to wish all my fellow Canadians a very Happy Thanksgiving!




Recharging Grandma


It’s been a long week recovering from a 3 1/2 week-long holiday.  What?  Recovering from a holiday?  That sounds ridiculous doesn’t it?  Well, not really!

I’ve heard so many people talk about coming home from their vacations and feeling the need to have some time off to recover but I never thought I’d fall into that category.  Well, here I am!

It’s been too many days spent watching CNN and hearing about Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton!

Yesterday I had my batteries recharged when I travelled to babysit my 5-year-old Granddaughter, Grace.  As you could guess, Grace has boundless energy as she stood gazing at her tired Grandma, saying, “aren’t you going to play with me?”!  To which I answered, “why of course I’ll play with you!  What will we play?”.


“Grandma you have to come and sit on the floor”, was the answer to my silly question!

Oh, it was a challenge, but I made it to the floor!  Now what?  She giggled and scurried around as Grandma pretended to be a barking puppy, while holding a small plastic figure of a little black dog between my fingers.  Just this small gesture pleased my precious sweet Granddaughter and she laughed and laughed.

The time spent that Friday afternoon did in fact recharge this Grandma.  I have realized how important it is to keep this old battery recharged; to not become lonely, discouraged or so bored with life that I give up and just sit, sit, sit!  I was falling into that pattern so easily as we seniors tend to do.


As the day turned out, we had such a wonderful time.  Grace was so happy to have her Grandma all to herself for the day and I loved sharing those moments with her.

Sometimes it takes a little child to teach us about life and what we are missing!




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The Journey To Admiring Self


“All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.”
― Asa Don Brown


To admire oneself seems to be the most difficult task  of the human race!

I don’t believe I am alone in saying that when I was a child I was criticised often by my well-meaning and loving father.  He was very strict and wanted so much for his daughters and son to grow up to be decent, intelligent, responsible adults.  I, too, wanted the same for my children and tried very hard to instill these virtues in them.

How do we teach our children to admire themselves?  It is such an important virtue that the child should be taught and one that I feel we fail to give to them.  We want our child to be self-confident, but not rude or insensitive to others.


Here are some tips that I have read and would like to share;

  • For Babies – give lots of cuddles and smiles when baby cries.
  • For Toddlers – let your child know that you see him or her as clever, special and valued.
  • For Preschoolers – A balanced feedback is important, for example; ‘Alex is a faster runner than you, but you’re better at catching a ball’!  This lets the child feel pride in him or herself.
  • For Primary School age – give extra love and cuddles at the end of the school day.  Show interest in their day spent at school; ask them what they did at school that day.  Teach your child about ‘fair play’.  Praise your child for what he or she is good at and let them know that you are proud of them for trying things that are very difficult.

It is definitely a ‘journey’ and we’ve all been there, I am sure!

Today we have the Internet which will surely influence our young children as they grow into adults.  Parents and loved ones have to work a little harder today to achieve a good outcome when raising our children, but it can be done!  Please also remember that children learn so much about self-esteem and self admiration from watching their parents.

It begins here, in childhood!  If we can only try our best to encourage self-esteem in these children the rewards will be so wonderful!


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